Everyone is single. Think about it. We each come into the world as one tiny, little individual. Oh yes, we have a mother and a father, and we may have brothers and sisters and a whole bunch of relatives, but basically each one of us, regardless of our relationship to others, is one human being. We have many types of relationships, which often give us the illusion of not being single at all. Yet if we examine our situation more closely, we see that regardless of our relationship to others, regardless of our marital status, we are still just one little person. Throughout our lives we have playmates and friends, acquaintances, casual contacts, and colleagues. We have lovers and spouses, and various combinations thereof, but still we remain uniquely one human being. No one else ever abides in our skin.

When people ask me, "Judy, do you like being single?" I'm careful about my answer. It's really hard for people to believe that a single person could like being single. I do like it. I didn't always. I was miserable in the first fragile stages, which often seemed to last for years. After my marriages, single life took some getting used to again. I had to wrestle with it. But not only did I get used to it, I really like living alone. Still, I don't always admit it. I'm careful not to brag. Usually I say, "There are some things I like about being single and some things that I don't." Which is also true. I like having my own space and my own moods. I like the living room walls red. I like my cozy white couch and chairs. In the summer, I like sleeping outdoors on my deck and listening to music in the middle of the night. I like stocking the refrigerator with sparkling water and take-out containers from my favorite restaurants. I like riding my bicycle during the dinner hour. I like unexpected romantic encounters. I like feeling sad about not having a partner who wants to me cheer me up. I like being cheerful without having to tone myself down because my partner's feeling grumpy. What it all boils down to is that I like living in sync with my own rhythm.

Join me in The Single's Pledge: There are happy singles and unhappy singles; there are happy marrieds and unhappy marrieds; there are happy living-aloners and unhappy living-aloners. Regardless of my status, I choose happy.

No more sitting around
waiting for someone to call.
It's Saturday, and I'm stepping out.
I've got three fun things to do.
And I'm just the person to do them.
Join me if you can.
I'm not waiting.
I'm here! It's me!
I light up the room.

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