Yes   No

1. My children, spouse, (and/or parents) know what kind of music I like.

Yes   No

2. I make sure to include something fun into my day.

Yes   No

3. My family would describe me as positive and loving.

Yes   No

4. I am silly at least ten minutes each day.

Yes   No

5. I take a light hearted approach when solving problems.

Yes   No

6. When I'm with my family the television off more than it is on.

Yes   No

7. When I've blown it, I will apologize to family members.

Yes   No

8. If I start a new project, I'll let myself quit after a short time if I'm sure I don't like it.

Yes   No

9. I let my kids stay home from school once in awhile even if they aren't sick.

Yes   No

10. I play hooky once in awhile from work.

Yes   No

11. I am interested in my spouse and show it.

Yes   No

12. I read books for relaxation.

Yes   No

13. My family has seen me dance.

Yes   No

14. I do a physical activity each week.

Yes   No

15. The people in my family are relax and cheerful most of the time.

Yes   No

16. Our home is safe.

Yes   No

17. I am able to see the positive side when things go wrong.

Yes   No

18. I know how to express anger without dumping on others.

Yes   No

19. I am able to negotiate with my children, spouse and/or parents when we disagree.

Yes   No

20. I accept feedback from my spouse, children, and/or parents.

Yes   No

21. I make a conscious effort to smile directly at my child each day.

Yes   No

22. I laugh with my partner and children daily.

Yes   No

23. I think my children have something important to teach me.

Yes   No

24. I put my focus on what my kids are doing right.

Yes   No

25. I avoid name-calling, criticism and put-downs.

Yes   No

26. Our family is able to talk about what is troubling us.

Yes   No

27. We acknowledge small accomplishments.

Yes   No

28. I can keep messes in perspective.

Yes   No

29. My family knows that they are my top priority.

Yes   No

30. At the end of the day, I am able to put events in perspective and begin fresh in the morning.

Go Through and count number of YES answers.

Your family life is much too serious. You're probably not enjoying yourself either and you're having difficulty relaxing. Perhaps you didn't have much fun growing up. You can change that pattern now by putting your focus on enjoying your family. You need to heal the wounds of your own childhood.

Your family life is tense and so are you. You're worried, anxious, and under pressure. This is affecting your family. You need to find healthy ways to relax and unwind. Remember don't sweat the small stuff. Focus on having fun. Make a daily practice of smiling directly at your children and spouse each day.

Your family life is moving in a good direction. You're beginning to enjoy your children. You understand that children respond well to kindness. Let yourself and your children be silly. Find ways to play together.

Your family life is important to you and you are able to focus on what truly matters in life. Remember it's the quality of your relationship with your family that matters in the long run. Hang out together without the pressures of doing. Listen more.

Your parenting style is upbeat and your children are able to laugh with you. Keep it up by adding a little more laughter each day.

You live in a nurturing family. Your parenting style is positive. Your children are developing good self-esteem. Keep doing what your doing because you are on the right track.